The dictionary definition of resilience is “an ability to recover from or adjust easily to misfortune or change.” Resilience is an important aspect of your emotional toolkit, especially if you’re at all empathic or sensitive. Do you take on other people’s problems? Do even small things affect you and throw you off course? If they do, it’s vital to be able to right yourself and get back to a sense of stability. This ability is often a matter of constitution, but it can be learned, though your success will depend on your willingness to practice, notice your own inner state, and hold yourself accountable.
It’s ok if that’s hard! It can be much easier (or at least more tolerable) with assistance and a willing listener, so don’t be afraid to ask for help. This is when a life coach can be handy, because they can either just help you out in a pinch, or help you practice understanding and changing how you react to things.
Here’s three tools from the life-coaching toolbox:
ENERGY WORK: Emotional work does have a physical component, even if you can’t see it. In physics, resilience is defined as “the ability of an elastic material (such as rubber or animal tissue) to absorb energy (such as from a blow) and release that energy as it springs back to its original shape.” Learning how to work with energy is an important aspect to maintaining your own health.JOURNALING: The biggest aspect of any effort is the initial self-awareness. You need to keep track of what’s going on in your life and how you’re reacting to it in order to figure out what you could do differently and when.
BODY AWARENESS: How do you physically respond to things? What “gets” you and where do you feel it in your body? Being able to sense this early on can help you notice when you’re starting to become stressed out or in danger of overwhelm.