Tarot for Teddy: Quick 3-Card Questions
One of my main goals as a life coach is to help people find their inner wisdom. This is usually buried beneath layers of personality we create to impress other people, limiting beliefs we've inherited or developed, and general insecurity or unfamiliarity with our own voice. I'm not here to give advice, or tell you what to do, but to help you figure out for yourself what's right for you. A good tarot reading is very much the same -- ironically, some people will complain "you didn't tell me anything I didn't already know!"
You'd think that if you know something, you should know it, right? But that voice inside you isn't very loud or insistent, and is easily overlooked. It takes some effort to make space to hear it, and sometimes we're pulled in so many different directions that finding resolution seems impossible. In particular, we're often torn between our hearts and our heads -- our feelings and our thoughts. Much of the time, we haven't even clearly identified our thoughts or feelings; we just know we feel like a huge mess and don't know what to do.
Last month we did a "bridging" spread with Teddy, helping him identify his feelings and thoughts around an issue and then helping him figure out how to bring the two of them together (if you know anything about chakras, the head and the heart average out to about the throat area -- the place of truth and individual voice). This month, we'll show you how you can use the same layout of cards, but as a way of prompting yourself to delve further into a situation. You could use the cards to explore your experience in your journal, or, as we're doing with Teddy, just talk things through.
Teddy felt like the past month was so busy that he didn't take any time for introspection. Often, our sessions are the only times he gets to process his experience at all. Sometimes there's something specific that's bothering him and we work at that; other times, like this one, there isn't anything nagging at him and we may just pull some cards to give him a hook for talking more efficiently.
So--we have a spread of three rows of three cards. Last month, the first column was "heart," the third column "head," and the middle column a bridge between the two. We read each row separately as an aspect of the issue at hand. This month, we're doing something different. The first card in each row is "What I know," the second is "What I don't know," and the third is "What might happen." FYI, those phrases make great journal prompts! We're going to show each row separately, just so you can see the cards better.
This month, Teddy said that he and Anatra were thinking of moving to a new place that would better fit both of them. He really wanted to make sure he knew what he thought and felt so he knew he was respecting his own needs in the decision and not just trying to make her happy.
Here's the first row:
"So Teddy," I said. "Let's make this like a game. Look at the cards, and say what comes to mind. Try not to hesitate too much. Ready, set go! What I know, what I don't know, what might happen."
Teddy grinned. "I know there's too many choices and I don't know how to tell which one is right. I don't know how to go on an adventure. What might happen is that we'll find a place we're both happy with and I shouldn't worry about it."
"There's a lot to unpack there," I said. "I'll write down what you said so you don't forget. We'll talk about it later, but let's keep going. Next!"
Teddy sat up straight. "Challenge accepted. I know that I wish I could be more cheerful. I don't know how to be take what I'm offered. What might happen is Anatra will leave me." He frowned. "Well, shit," he said. "That sucks."
"Well this one at least starts off good," Teddy said. "I know we're totally in love. I don't know why I hide behind my shield. What might happen is I get hurt anyway."
"Jeez, Ted" I said. "Issues much?" I grinned and handed him half a chocolate bar. He's used to my giving him a hard time.
Ted snorted. "Job security, much?"
We talked a little bit about his worries and the relative likelihood of outcomes, and got a sense of which item bothered him the most. I told him I would email him a picture of the cards and a list of his responses, but we'd start next session talking about that one. In the meantime, I told him, focus on those happy rabbits!